How to Protect Your Digital Privacy After Leaving an Abusive Relationship
Leaving an abusive relationship is a courageous and significant step toward reclaiming your life and personal safety. However, even after physically distancing yourself from an abuser, it’s crucial to protect your digital privacy. In today’s connected world, abusers can use technology to monitor, harass, or manipulate their victims from afar. Securing your devices, social media, and online accounts is essential to ensuring your ongoing safety and peace of mind.
- Secure Your Devices
Your smartphone, computer, and other digital devices are often the primary means through which an abuser can continue to exert control or surveillance. Start by securing these devices:
Change Passwords and PINs: Change the passwords and PINs on all your devices immediately. Choose strong, unique passwords that are difficult to guess—avoid using easily accessible information like birthdays or common phrases. Consider using a password manager to generate and store complex passwords securely.
Enable Two-Factor Authentication (2FA): Two-factor authentication adds an extra layer of security by requiring a second form of verification (such as a code sent to your phone) in addition to your password. Enable 2FA on all your accounts to prevent unauthorized access.
Update Software and Operating Systems: Ensure that all your devices are running the latest software and operating system updates. These updates often include important security patches that protect against vulnerabilities.
Check for Spyware and Malware: Abusers may install spyware or malware on your devices to monitor your activities. Run a thorough scan using reputable antivirus software to detect and remove any malicious software. If you suspect your device has been compromised, consider doing a factory reset, but be sure to back up important data first.
Use Secure Wi-Fi Networks: Avoid using public Wi-Fi networks, which can be insecure and susceptible to hacking. At home, secure your Wi-Fi network with a strong password and ensure that it is not shared with anyone who might compromise your privacy.
- Safeguard Your Online Accounts
Your online accounts, including email, social media, and financial services, contain sensitive information that could be exploited by an abuser. Take the following steps to secure these accounts:
Review Account Recovery Options: Ensure that your account recovery options, such as backup email addresses and security questions, are up to date and secure. Avoid using questions that the abuser could easily answer. Consider using obscure answers or random strings of characters as answers to security questions.
Monitor Account Activity: Regularly check the activity logs on your accounts to ensure there has been no unauthorized access. Most platforms allow you to see recent logins and connected devices—if you notice any unfamiliar activity, secure the account immediately.
Limit Access to Personal Information: Be cautious about the personal information you share online, especially on social media. Review your privacy settings to control who can see your posts, photos, and other personal details. Consider making your profiles private and removing any connections that could share your information with the abuser.
Change Your Email Address: If your email address is known to the abuser, consider creating a new one. Use this new email for all sensitive communications, including account recovery and financial transactions. Keep the old email for non-sensitive purposes but monitor it for any suspicious activity.
Secure Financial Accounts: Review the security settings on your bank, credit card, and other financial accounts. Ensure that your contact information is up to date and that your accounts are protected by strong, unique passwords and 2FA. If you believe the abuser has access to your financial accounts, contact your financial institution to discuss additional security measures.
- Protect Your Social Media Presence
Social media can be a powerful tool for staying connected with loved ones, but it can also be a vulnerability if not properly secured. Follow these steps to protect your social media accounts:
Adjust Privacy Settings: Review and adjust the privacy settings on your social media accounts to control who can see your posts, send you messages, or find you in searches. Limit your audience to trusted friends and family, and avoid sharing your location or other sensitive information publicly.
Block and Report the Abuser: If the abuser attempts to contact you through social media, block them immediately. Most platforms also allow you to report abusive behavior, which can result in the abuser’s account being suspended or banned.
Be Cautious with New Connections: Be mindful of accepting new friend requests or connection requests, especially from people you don’t know personally. Abusers may create fake accounts or enlist others to monitor your online activity. Verify new connections before accepting them.
Limit Check-ins and Location Sharing: Avoid using location-sharing features or checking in at specific places. Abusers can use this information to track your whereabouts, even if they are not directly connected to you on social media.
Consider Temporarily Deactivating Accounts: If you feel overwhelmed or concerned about your safety, consider temporarily deactivating your social media accounts. This can give you time to regroup and focus on your safety without the added pressure of managing online interactions.
4. Stay Vigilant and Seek Support
Even after taking these precautions, it’s important to remain vigilant about your digital privacy. Regularly review your accounts and devices for any signs of tampering or unauthorized access. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, take action to secure your information.
Seek Support: Leaving an abusive relationship is a difficult and emotional process. Don’t hesitate to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals. Domestic violence organizations, legal advocates, and counselors can provide additional guidance and resources to help you stay safe.
Legal Protections: Consider obtaining a protective order if you haven’t already. In Florida, a protective order (also known as an injunction) can include provisions that prohibit the abuser from contacting you through any means, including digital communication. Consult with a family law attorney to understand your legal options and how they can enhance your safety.
Contact Law Offices of Taryn G. Sinatra, P.A.
Protecting your digital privacy after leaving an abusive relationship is a critical step in safeguarding your personal safety and peace of mind. By securing your devices, online accounts, and social media presence, you can reduce the risk of continued harassment or surveillance. Remember, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone—reach out to support networks and legal professionals who can help you protect your rights and well-being.
If you need legal assistance related to domestic violence or protecting your privacy, the Law Offices of Taryn G. Sinatra, P.A. is here to help. Our experienced team is dedicated to supporting survivors and ensuring their safety through comprehensive legal guidance. Contact us today to learn how we can assist you in securing your digital privacy and protecting your future.
Sources:
npr.org/2020/10/09/922262686/your-technology-is-tracking-you-take-these-steps-for-better-online-privacy
usatoday.com/story/tech/columnist/komando/2023/03/19/tips-to-prevent-stop-online-stalking/11478910002/
